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Post by MK on Jun 12, 2004 19:25:29 GMT -5
 It has been 4 years quit. It appears during my smoking years I was more tolerant of people because right now I am not talking to one, two three people who I thought were very special in my life. Anyone else want to discuss this one?
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Post by judyb on Jun 15, 2004 10:56:57 GMT -5
Yeah, I "lost" some "friends" after I quit, too. I figure it's their loss. I was tolerant of them smoking around me, it's just that they were feeling uneasy. They slowly faded out of my life.
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Post by Dot on Jun 15, 2004 20:16:42 GMT -5
It could involve a little jealousy on the part of those who still smoke. As hard as it was to quit, I'd be the last one to point a judgemental finger at anyone who smokes. In fact, I still have a couple ashtrays sitting around for my smoking friends and relations. But you still get the feeling that some people are uneasy now...as judy says...their loss!
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Post by MK on Jun 15, 2004 21:51:14 GMT -5
Its not only smokers that I have problems with. Its everyone. I think I stuffed so many feelings inside smoking, I can't tolerate people like I used to.  |
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Post by Bubb on Jun 16, 2004 8:40:08 GMT -5
This is a tough one to reconcile MK….but only if you choose to try to figure it out. Since quitting smoking, many many things in my life have also changed (all for the better by the way). But who knows, priorities change…and certainly giving up cigarettes was a rearrangement of gigantic proportions.
Dot makes a good point about jealousy. Though some may deny it, a great majority of smokers would like to kick the habit. It’s human nature to be envious of someone who has been able to succeed. And Judy makes a excellent point too about others feeling a tad uneasy around someone who is no longer a part of the click. No doubt about it….it’s their loss. I don’t mean it in an intolerable way but smokers will continue to flounder in their clouds of smoke, unable to see or think clearly. Though they generally don’t want pity, I feel sorry for them. I wish there were a way to guide them a bit. But as we all know, each has to find his/her own path.
I’ve often wondered if some of the changes in my life are a result of quitting smoking or more as a result of getting a bit older. I don’t consider myself an old fart but I’ve admittedly been around the block a few times. I probably shouldn’t think about it as much as I do but it’s probably a combination of both. It’s time to think more about what I want and about how I feel rather than worrying about everyone else. My wife and I have finally come to the conclusion we’ve done the best we can with our kids, family and friends and if in the eyes of other’s we’ve come up a little short…..well, that’s just too bad.
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Post by MK on Jun 16, 2004 15:52:30 GMT -5
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Good point. I got hooked and cigarettes and smoked everything away. I tolerated people because I knew I could smoke. Lets face it. We all do our best and thats all we can do. The fact that we quit when the chances are what 1000 to 1 is incredible. I am definitely not the same person I was when I smoked. I like myself for not smoking. Thanks all!!
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