Post by Ann on Oct 25, 2005 8:07:36 GMT -5
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It is also crucial not to take responsibility for the
occurrence of the urge, but only your response to it. It is
normal for any addict to experience urges, and just because
on Sunday you decide to stop does not mean that on Monday
you will not have urges. The fact that urges occur does not
indicate that your motivation is weak, but that your
addiction is strong. Because all habits have unconscious
components, of which the urge is one, it will take time for
these to die away. What is within your control, however, is
how you respond to the urge. An analogy could be made to
someone knocking at your front door. All sorts of
individuals might knock at your door, but it is up to you to
decide with whom you will talk. Their knocking is not your
responsibility, but to what extent you choose to speak with
them is.
full article: www.habitsmart.com/coping.html
It is also crucial not to take responsibility for the
occurrence of the urge, but only your response to it. It is
normal for any addict to experience urges, and just because
on Sunday you decide to stop does not mean that on Monday
you will not have urges. The fact that urges occur does not
indicate that your motivation is weak, but that your
addiction is strong. Because all habits have unconscious
components, of which the urge is one, it will take time for
these to die away. What is within your control, however, is
how you respond to the urge. An analogy could be made to
someone knocking at your front door. All sorts of
individuals might knock at your door, but it is up to you to
decide with whom you will talk. Their knocking is not your
responsibility, but to what extent you choose to speak with
them is.
full article: www.habitsmart.com/coping.html