Post by KAREN on Dec 3, 2005 19:36:15 GMT -5
I love this and just wanted to share it.........hope that is okay!!!
A TIME COMES IN YOUR LIFE
YOU FINALLY GET IT . . .
When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your
tracks, and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out -
ENOUGH
This is your awakening.
You realize that it's time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change
or for happiness, safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon.
You come to terms with the fact that he is not Prince Charming and you are
not Cinderella and that in the real world there aren't always fairy tale
endings (or beginnings for that matter), and that any guarantee of happily
ever after must begin with you; and in the process a sense of serenity is
born of acceptance.
You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will
always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are ... and that's OK.
And you learn the importance of loving and championing yourself; and in the
process a sense of newfound confidence is born of self-approval.
You stop bi*ching and blaming other people for the things they did to you (or
didn't do for you) and you learn that the only thing you can really count on
is the unexpected.
You learn that people don't always say what they mean or mean what they say,
and that not everyone will always be there for you; and that it's not always
about you.
So, you learn to stand on your own, and to take care of yourself; and in the
process a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance.
You stop judging and pointing fingers ... and you begin to accept people as
they are, and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties; and in the
process a sense of peace and contentment is born of forgiveness.
You realize that much of the way you view yourself, and the world around you
is as a result of all the messages and opinions that have been ingrained into
your psyche.
And you begin to sift through all the crap you've been fed about how you
should behave, how you should look, and how much you should weigh; what you
should wear and where you should shop, and what you should drive; how and
where you should live, and what you should do for a living; who you should
sleep with, who you should marry, and what you should expect of a marriage;
the importance of having and raising children, or what you owe your parents.
You learn the difference between wanting and needing and you begin to discard
the doctrines and values you've outgrown, or should never have bought into to
begin with; and in the process you learn to go with your instincts.
You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the outdated
ideals of a bygone era, but the mortar that holds together the foundation
upon which you must build a life.
You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility, and the importance
of setting boundaries, and learning to say NO.
You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry, and
that martyrs get burned at the stake.
Then you learn about love. Romantic love and familial love. How to love, how
much to give in love, when to stop giving, and when to walk away.
You learn not to project your needs or your feelings onto a relationship.
You learn that you will not be more beautiful, more intelligent, more lovable
or important because of the man on your arm or the child that bears your name.
You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would
have them be.
You stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes.
You learn that just as people grow and change, so it is with love...and you
learn that you don't have the right to demand love on your terms ... just to
make you happy.
And, you learn that alone does not mean lonely.
And you learn that your body really is your temple, and you begin to care for
it and treat it with respect. You begin eating a balanced diet, drinking more
water and taking more time to exercise. And, just as food fuels the body,
laughter fuels our soul.
So you take more time to laugh and to play.
You learn that -- for the most part -- in life you get what you believe you
deserve ... and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You learn that life isn't always fair, you don't always get what you think
you deserve; On these occasions you learn not to personalize things.
You learn that God isn't punishing you or failing to answer your prayers;
it's just life happening.
And you learn to deal with evil in its most primal state -- the ego.
You learn that negative feelings such as anger, envy and resentment must be
understood and redirected or they will suffocate the life out of you, and
poison the universe that surrounds you.
You learn to admit when you are wrong and to build bridges instead of walls.
Slowly, you begin to take responsibility for yourself by yourself; and you to
make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never, ever, settle
for less than your heart's desire.
And you hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind.
And you make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting, and to stay open
to every wonderful possibility.
Finally, with courage in your heart and with God by your side you take a
stand; you take a deep breath,
and you begin to design the life you want to live as best as you can.
Author Unknown
A TIME COMES IN YOUR LIFE
YOU FINALLY GET IT . . .
When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you stop dead in your
tracks, and somewhere the voice inside your head cries out -
ENOUGH
This is your awakening.
You realize that it's time to stop hoping and waiting for something to change
or for happiness, safety and security to come galloping over the next horizon.
You come to terms with the fact that he is not Prince Charming and you are
not Cinderella and that in the real world there aren't always fairy tale
endings (or beginnings for that matter), and that any guarantee of happily
ever after must begin with you; and in the process a sense of serenity is
born of acceptance.
You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will
always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are ... and that's OK.
And you learn the importance of loving and championing yourself; and in the
process a sense of newfound confidence is born of self-approval.
You stop bi*ching and blaming other people for the things they did to you (or
didn't do for you) and you learn that the only thing you can really count on
is the unexpected.
You learn that people don't always say what they mean or mean what they say,
and that not everyone will always be there for you; and that it's not always
about you.
So, you learn to stand on your own, and to take care of yourself; and in the
process a sense of safety and security is born of self-reliance.
You stop judging and pointing fingers ... and you begin to accept people as
they are, and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties; and in the
process a sense of peace and contentment is born of forgiveness.
You realize that much of the way you view yourself, and the world around you
is as a result of all the messages and opinions that have been ingrained into
your psyche.
And you begin to sift through all the crap you've been fed about how you
should behave, how you should look, and how much you should weigh; what you
should wear and where you should shop, and what you should drive; how and
where you should live, and what you should do for a living; who you should
sleep with, who you should marry, and what you should expect of a marriage;
the importance of having and raising children, or what you owe your parents.
You learn the difference between wanting and needing and you begin to discard
the doctrines and values you've outgrown, or should never have bought into to
begin with; and in the process you learn to go with your instincts.
You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the outdated
ideals of a bygone era, but the mortar that holds together the foundation
upon which you must build a life.
You learn to distinguish between guilt and responsibility, and the importance
of setting boundaries, and learning to say NO.
You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to carry, and
that martyrs get burned at the stake.
Then you learn about love. Romantic love and familial love. How to love, how
much to give in love, when to stop giving, and when to walk away.
You learn not to project your needs or your feelings onto a relationship.
You learn that you will not be more beautiful, more intelligent, more lovable
or important because of the man on your arm or the child that bears your name.
You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would
have them be.
You stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes.
You learn that just as people grow and change, so it is with love...and you
learn that you don't have the right to demand love on your terms ... just to
make you happy.
And, you learn that alone does not mean lonely.
And you learn that your body really is your temple, and you begin to care for
it and treat it with respect. You begin eating a balanced diet, drinking more
water and taking more time to exercise. And, just as food fuels the body,
laughter fuels our soul.
So you take more time to laugh and to play.
You learn that -- for the most part -- in life you get what you believe you
deserve ... and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy.
You learn that life isn't always fair, you don't always get what you think
you deserve; On these occasions you learn not to personalize things.
You learn that God isn't punishing you or failing to answer your prayers;
it's just life happening.
And you learn to deal with evil in its most primal state -- the ego.
You learn that negative feelings such as anger, envy and resentment must be
understood and redirected or they will suffocate the life out of you, and
poison the universe that surrounds you.
You learn to admit when you are wrong and to build bridges instead of walls.
Slowly, you begin to take responsibility for yourself by yourself; and you to
make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never, ever, settle
for less than your heart's desire.
And you hang a wind chime outside your window so you can listen to the wind.
And you make it a point to keep smiling, to keep trusting, and to stay open
to every wonderful possibility.
Finally, with courage in your heart and with God by your side you take a
stand; you take a deep breath,
and you begin to design the life you want to live as best as you can.
Author Unknown