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Post by mprny on Jun 12, 2007 19:09:15 GMT -5
I love the way you all post and all the things I have learned from looking at this forum,but most times,I feel like it's going to a book store, get what you what to read and leave, I would love to get to know all of you more,and have more deep conversations, I dont know how this site was intended to be,but I thank you all and would just love to chit chat,I went thru all the pages of this group everytime I had a crave in the past,and ALWAYS found something to help,I thank you for that, I think I did try to just have a off topic post before but it did not last, this is a great place and if you want all the lurkers to post,I think I chit chat area may help,because no matter what we may talk about,dealing with things as a new non smoker is important,IMO,I was on another support group,Dot I think it was the same one you was on,that became insane,it was nice in the begining because you try to make friends,but that was a dont know how to say it nice but a very "controled"group, I wou;d love to see this place just growing and chating because you all are so cool,and have alot to offer,without being so big as the Q love you all Mary
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Post by Vanessa on Jun 12, 2007 23:16:06 GMT -5
I couldn't agree with you more, Mary. When this BB first started off, it was a very chatty group. In fact, we used to chat almost every night.
Over the years, though, there has been less and less posting and no chatting for several years. There is a chat room here that we can use. Maybe if you post a time and day to chat, you will get some takers. I think it's really the newbies that would be most interested in that. I have to say that if I was just quitting, I probably would not stick with this BB because there just aren't enough people that take the time to post and contribute to this site.
I think the way I first found this place was that I was on another BB chatting with some people and one of them invited me to join this site, which I did. And then I invited other people to come on over, too. I really don't know how people get here now.
I don't have any idea how you get the lurkers to post, but maybe others do.
Vanessa
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Post by mprny on Jun 13, 2007 6:31:35 GMT -5
even if we dont use the chat room,it is hard to organize a time,but even a daily off-topic topic, pets,parents,homes,etc that sort of thing may start it up again?
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Post by Don on Jun 13, 2007 12:44:57 GMT -5
Oh there used to be frequent chats on J4U & Southbeach. Sometimes we'd schedule it, other times we'd post on the board that we were in the chat room at that moment, inviting others to join. It can be difficult getting people around the globe to meet at a universal time. At other boards I frequent for different hobbies, the same situation happens in trying to get people together to chat.
There's that chat link I added to this board when we first came here...I think it still works. I am also aware that ProBoards has a new chat feature as part of their latest software upgrade. I could look into seeing if that can be turned on for this board as well.
But, besides the chats, there were the Off Topics which can be outright fun in their own right. Like the thread about "what kind of shoe are you wearing right now?" You get to learn a bit more about your boardmates, sometimes not what you expect.
I remember J4U had a 'sounding board-political area' that got a little wild and heated at times. I've seen these (and participated) on other boards as well and they always have a habit of ticking people off. So being a bit "Controlled" can be a good thing in my opinion.
But Mary, feel free to post those inquires about the off-topic aspects of our everyday lives. I surmise you to be a Monty Python fan, as am I. I wonder how many others remember the Cheese Sketch or the Funny Walks, or "How not to be seen".
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Post by countryblocks on Jun 13, 2007 14:02:02 GMT -5
I check this board several times a day and to be honest ther's not posting here. I don't expect everyone to post every hour but I could use some encouragement. I stopped smoking last week and I am havng a difficult time. This is not my first time. I thought it gets easier each time but not for me. countryblocks
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Post by Flo on Jun 13, 2007 18:02:05 GMT -5
Dear Countryblocks. I check in daily and sometimes a couple of times a day, but I don't know if I can hang around for long chats but I will put my two cents in as I can. Hang in there. This is a small group but sincere and intimate. You have to own your quit. When you are having tough craves, no one but you can keep you from smoking. So, hang in, don't smoke and keep posting. We'll be there. p.s. What is a blog. Could we do one here? p.p.s. I am wearing new sandals - those ones that are like thongs? Between the toes? Owie....sigh. Will I never learn? They look great though
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Post by slim on Jun 13, 2007 22:20:12 GMT -5
Oh my Flo Getting things going is see! Off topic is fine for me...bring it on.
I have been know to sound less like a book on rare occasions.....can you handle it is the question? Don trys hard to keep me under control but my class song "back in the day" was free bird. How do you control a Free Bird! I do like southern Rock. What shall we talk about.....
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Post by mprny on Jun 14, 2007 8:25:36 GMT -5
>besides the chats, there were the Off Topics which can be outright fun in their own right. Like the thread about "what kind of shoe are you wearing right now?<
yes thas what I mean,!!like you said its hard to organize a chat room, but just in topics is fun too,what I meant about controlled was that other group did not really"support"I felt they were to hard and people looking for help'(like you had to do believe a certain way or you we wrong)anyway I dont want to bash any group,it just wasnt comfortable,
Countryblocks,I think we all cheeck in a few times aday,we all need to post about anything so post away
oh my SILLYWALK is PERFECTED by now,I have been hand rubbing 500square feet of redoak floors with tung oil,wishing I was a"FREEBIRD"(my roof fell in a few weeks ago,so major work is going on,and we are DIYers)but while wearing lime green flip flops:)John Cleese has nothing on me right now... And I thought to myself, "a little fermented curd will do the trick," so, I curtailed my Walpoling activites, sallied forth, and infiltrated your place of purveyance to negotiate the vending of some cheesy comestibles!YUM Mary
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Post by slim on Jun 14, 2007 9:47:12 GMT -5
I would like to see a picture of that
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Post by countryblocks on Jun 14, 2007 11:21:38 GMT -5
well here I am today and I am not in a good mood. Irritable to. Last night we went over my daughter's and sat outside and hubby smoked several and that bothered me but I said nothing and then this morning he went outside with coffee and started smoking and I guess it just got to me cause I got upset and told him I felt the least he could do was go smoke somewhere else instead of in front of me cause it still bothers me. am I wrong? I am trying so hard and this doesn't help at all. I have been quit since a week ago last Wednesday. Almost everyone of my friends and relatives smoke so it is difficult for me.It is hot so we have the air on and house is closed up so now when he goes outside I can't see him.
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Post by mprny on Jun 15, 2007 7:51:14 GMT -5
you are right asking him to smoke outside,just phase it nicely like"honey,I know we all quit when we are ready,and its ok if you want to continue to smoke,but please can you support me in my decision to quit?and smoke outside?thanks baby I love you so much"-you maybe surprized that after a while he may start thinging about quiting, I know its is hard to keep a sweet mood in the begining,but as the saying goes you'll catch more flies with honey, and remember that the Nicodemom,that wants you to feel angry at people who smoke,because your not allowing him anymore! hang tough and sweet,you can do it! Mary
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Post by Don on Jun 15, 2007 12:47:51 GMT -5
Keep up the commitment Countryblocks! If hubby loves you and respects you, he'll move outside if you ask him nicely. Otherwise that just leaves threats...threats work too.
And Mary, I wear pointy cowboy boots 99% of the time.
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Post by countryblocks on Jun 15, 2007 14:08:27 GMT -5
Mary I am having a hard time with the sweet talk cause I feel grumpy. I said the least you can do if you care about me is go smoke outside somewhere where I can't see you and he does. He hides pretty good to cause now I have to find him if it's dinnertime or I want to go somewhere. Hope this mood goes away soon. don't like to feel this way.
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Post by Flo on Jun 15, 2007 17:54:03 GMT -5
Hang in there countryblocks. Perservance brings furtherance. Each crave you fight takes you that much further away.
Just don't take that puff and you'll be Aok.
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Post by mprny on Jun 16, 2007 6:48:54 GMT -5
Countryblocks,hang in there,I had bad moods too,but I keep them to myself,they werent caused by my family,but by the dam Nicodemon,so I took it out on him not the family,and the angrier I get at"him"the more strength I seem to get, also I tried to view it as a flu,with PMS,and hot flashes,lol,the physical all will pass,the mental is harder, but thats great he is moving outside. Don,snakeskin? Mary edit-wrote Slim instead of Don sorry for the mix up
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