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Jun 23, 2007 13:18:53 GMT -5
Post by countryblocks on Jun 23, 2007 13:18:53 GMT -5
I am having a bad day today. a stressful one and am about ready to throw in the towel and start smoking. I haven't yet but am seriously thinking about it. I know someone will tell me smoking won't relieve the stress but in my way of thinking it will.
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Jun 23, 2007 15:36:14 GMT -5
Post by Ann on Jun 23, 2007 15:36:14 GMT -5
SMOKING WILL NOT SOLVE YOUR PROBLEMS
Stop everything right now and concentrate on YOU. This is your time, this is your quit. Yes you may think it will solve all your problems and relieve your stress but then it's a catch 22. Now you smoked and you have to quit and go through hell week all over. Do you want to do that all for the sake of a stinking expensive cigarette?
No matter the stress, no matter the traggedy, no matter the problem smoking won't solve your stress, your tragedy or your problem. We have all been through this, it's not easy to deny yourself what you think you want. Take a step back and look at your bad day, why is it bad? Can you go for a walk to calm yourself, take a long hot soak, get your hair done, your nails done. Get a babysitter if you still have kids and get out by yourself.
There are some days even at 7 years when I think it would be so nice to take a break and treat myself to a ciggy for something well done. This is a life long process, you need to learn how to conquer your cravings now and build up your strategies for the future. There is a light out there and it truly does get better but as with all good things it takes time. Give yourself time and don't smoke what ever you do.
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Jun 23, 2007 20:14:19 GMT -5
Post by countryblocks on Jun 23, 2007 20:14:19 GMT -5
Ann my kids are in their 30's and I just found out they are mad at my youngest one. to make a long story short he is the one who used to do drugs, but was in a rehab and did some jail time and is clean and sober. My 2 kids cannot forget what he has done. we let him come back here and live and try to get a job.This was about 2 weeks ago and they waited until now to tell us. My daughter said we are not allowed to see the grandkids unless at a public place or at her house.I am very hurt. she said no one likes him.This is why I am having a bad time. I did not smoke today though. I don't know what stopped me.
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Jun 23, 2007 20:18:24 GMT -5
Post by countryblocks on Jun 23, 2007 20:18:24 GMT -5
I forgot to mention. My son asked his brothr if he could go fishing with him last Saturday night and he said yes. Make sure you buy a fishing license. Monday he called me and said he had alot of nerve asking him if he could go fishing with him. I was stunned. At this point I don't know what to say or do anymore. Jordan will will 1 Wednesday and they had a party tonight but we weren't there.
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Jun 24, 2007 8:00:10 GMT -5
Post by slim on Jun 24, 2007 8:00:10 GMT -5
Yes, Family issues are not easy. As a parent you love all your kids no matter what. I hope that time will heal the wounds. Your youngest may have to prove to himself and his siblings that he is a good boy.
None of this will become better by smoking...simple as that. I understand that you want one...that the nicobeast is calling you..." hey take me...i can make you feel all better" LIES! Don't listen to him....be strong Country and keep your quit!! It's very important! Smoking is an Addiction....you can beat it....and soon Country you will be breathing better....and coping with life without smokes....and feeling very good about yourself!! Keep it going.
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Jun 24, 2007 8:11:58 GMT -5
Post by Ann on Jun 24, 2007 8:11:58 GMT -5
My nephew is a drug addict too. He has been through rehab a dozen times and continues to put his mother and father through all the emotional up's and down's. Sometimes family is the pits, what's the old saying about not being able to choose relatives like you choose your friends? I sometimes think it's true.
I'm very proud of you for holding your head high and not smoking that's the most important thing for you right now not the family feuds. The family feuds will be there until the end of time and smoking won't change the way your kids feel, nor will it stop your son from being a drug addict. You have also come away from this experience with the knowledge that you have learned a new coping skill in dealing with cravings. Congratulations!
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Jun 24, 2007 9:14:18 GMT -5
Post by Don on Jun 24, 2007 9:14:18 GMT -5
It really all comes down to coping with Life without the smoking crutch we used. Smoking, like a movie, is a diversion from our normal life. Unfortunately, smoking becomes an addiction and we make it part of "normal life".
I won't comment on the family issue...only as far as to say that family will always be a source of stress. And if there were no family then there would be something else to fill the vacuum of stress.
The long story made short is that smoking doesn't really do anything to make a situation better. By continuing to smoke then one only hurts themself. Save the smoking for the firing squad.
I really do hope things calm and heal a bit for you Country! But know that smoking won't solve a single thing. You must hold your head up and find a way to muddle thru. You really can't easily change other people and as you see with smoking, it's hard just to change yourself. But change can come, by example or sheer will. Stay strong with your decision to Quit. Show the world that you have to power to change.
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Jun 24, 2007 10:07:39 GMT -5
Post by countryblocks on Jun 24, 2007 10:07:39 GMT -5
My thanks to all for your input. I will take any advice anyone is willing to give me. I haven't smoked yet but the darn cravings or is it urges are so strong that it is driving me nuts. Today has been peaceful so far cause kids haven't called.Wanted to go to church but overslept. Have a good day everyone.
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Jun 25, 2007 15:55:21 GMT -5
Post by Flo on Jun 25, 2007 15:55:21 GMT -5
Hang in countryblocks! You are doing great. Hang in. Crave all you want. Just don't take a puff! That's the secret. Don't take that puff or you'll be back on the cartons and smoking heavier than ever. Smoking kills. Craves don't. Hang in there!
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