Post by judyb on Jul 9, 2004 11:06:36 GMT -5
Some things all new quitters need to remember......in the first few months of our quit, so much is going on that we become confused as to what's really important in our lives.....
Personal Bill of Rights
I have numerous choices in my life beyond mere survival.
I have a right to discover and know my child within.
I have a right to grieve over what I didn't get that I needed, or what I got that I didn't want or need.
I have a right to follow my own values and standards.
I have a right to recognize and accept my own value systems as appropriate.
I have a right to say no to anything when I feel I am not ready, it is unsafe, or it violates my values.
I have a right to dignity and respect.
I have a right to make decisions.
I have a right to determine and honor my own priorities.
I have the right to have my needs and wants respected by others.
I have the right to terminate conversations with people who make me feel put down and humiliated.
I have the right not to be responsible for others behaviors, actions, feelings or problems.
I have a right to make mistakes and not be perfect.
I have a right to expect honesty from others.
I have a right to all of my feelings.
I have a right to be angry at someone I love.
I have a right to be uniquely me, without feeling I'm not good enough.
I have a right to feel scared and to say I'm afraid.
I have the right to experience and then let go of fear, guilt, and shame.
I have the right to make decisions based on my feelings, my judgement, or any reason that I choose.
I have the right to change my mind at any time.
I have the right to be happy.
I have the right to stability - i.e., "roots" and stable, healthy relationships of my choice.
Personal Bill of Rights
I have numerous choices in my life beyond mere survival.
I have a right to discover and know my child within.
I have a right to grieve over what I didn't get that I needed, or what I got that I didn't want or need.
I have a right to follow my own values and standards.
I have a right to recognize and accept my own value systems as appropriate.
I have a right to say no to anything when I feel I am not ready, it is unsafe, or it violates my values.
I have a right to dignity and respect.
I have a right to make decisions.
I have a right to determine and honor my own priorities.
I have the right to have my needs and wants respected by others.
I have the right to terminate conversations with people who make me feel put down and humiliated.
I have the right not to be responsible for others behaviors, actions, feelings or problems.
I have a right to make mistakes and not be perfect.
I have a right to expect honesty from others.
I have a right to all of my feelings.
I have a right to be angry at someone I love.
I have a right to be uniquely me, without feeling I'm not good enough.
I have a right to feel scared and to say I'm afraid.
I have the right to experience and then let go of fear, guilt, and shame.
I have the right to make decisions based on my feelings, my judgement, or any reason that I choose.
I have the right to change my mind at any time.
I have the right to be happy.
I have the right to stability - i.e., "roots" and stable, healthy relationships of my choice.