nothing goes right.....

[Dot]

Two years ago, I had my foot "fixed"...a bone cut and repositioned. Now I have to go back because the metal pin is coming out.

A year ago, I started allergy shots. My nose is still running.

Four months ago, I joined a gym, and have been working out hard (in addition to walking daily). No change in either my weight or strength.

1 1/2 years ago, I quit smoking. I should be feeling much healthier by now.

I'm so tired of trying, and there doesn't seem to be any good results in anything. I just want to fall apart and quit all the effort.

[Ann]

((((((((((Dot))))))))))

You may not feel any better after quitting but inside your body is doing jumping jacks of joy. I'm sorry that things are not going well for you right now but in the long run smoking would have killed you. Whether you take off the weight or not doesn't really matter right now because it's not as big a factor as smoking was.

Maybe you need a break, don't think about working out dont' think about weight just concentrate on DOT. She comes first she deserves KUDOS she needs lots of hugs she needs a night in a hotel with room service she needs (this is my cure all) "CHOCOLATE"! Get a good tear jerker movie to watch, read a steamy romance novel just take time for yourself.

This is something that I feel very firmly about if you need to sit down and cry then by all means have a whine and cheese party. A good cry, a good 'why me' a pity party always helps IMHO. Then you can pick yourself up and start all over after having a good cry it makes you feel cleansed. I firmly believe every woman should do this on the average of at least 2-4 times a year.

[slim]

Dot
I understand how you feel about wanting to feel better...as I felt the same way well past 2 years into my quit...there were days that I surely felt better while I was smoking and masking the pain....but I am here to tell you that I found that if I could just hang in there long enough - there was definately positive signs in my health. I think that time quit, and 'attitude adjusting' both helped in that regard! Today I am feeling so much better than even a year ago and I am stumped as to why it took so long. All I can say to you is hang in there.

Please take Ann's advice as it sounds good to me. You are definately on the right road Dot! When you fall...we all are there for you to help you up, dust you off, and keep on keeping on together!

(((hugs)))

[Vanessa]

Hi Dot,

I hope this doesn't offend you, but you sound clinically depressed. Have you considered talking to your doctor about antidepressants?

Vanessa

[Bubb]

Woe would be me to try to figure out why women feel the way they do at times… but the smoking thing certainly seems guilty of ‘piling on’. Vanessa makes a very good suggestion.

I don’t know Dot, as far as cigarettes go, your body will need more time to undo what 40+ years of smoking did…… but you’ve got to stick with it. Quitting exercising and picking up the cigs again is not going to fix anything. It'll only put you into a deeper funk.

[Dee]

Oh Dot, can I ever identify with what you are saying. I felt pretty good while I was smoking...I think. then 2 months after I quit I developed neuropathy in my feet. (Today I have it in my hands too, but that's a whole other story). Then a year ago I developed diabetes...probably from all the chupa chups I ate in my first year of quitting! I could go on, but what's the point.

Here's some good things...I was supposed to have my toe amputated last year, but because I walked miles and miles and miles, I got that circulation going again. I also think God had something to do with that, but that's my opinion. I don't have headaches any more and I had them every day of my life for years and years and years. Smoking was causing them, but I didn't know it. Look hard Dot, there are some good things about quitting. Just don't quit quitting...please.

I think I'm about the same age as you, and to be honest with you, it's probably age related. I mean, we can't expect to feel like 20 year olds! ;D

Let's look at it this way Dot, we ain't dead yet! Think positive and take the advice about the dr. and depression. Depression is a horrible waste of time and energy and it CAN be cured. Or dealt with.

Hang in there Buddy, and I'll say a prayer or two for you to feel better. It DOES help...IMO.

[Graciedonovan]

Dot, the only issue I can address with any authority is the allergies. I've been taking allergy shot for 15 years. IT TAKES TIME to notice improvement. I did notice after one year, that I only got bronchitis 4 times a year instead of 8-10. Now, I haven't had it in years. However, I do take an antihistamine every day for the runny nose. After all the years of bronchitis, I welcome the runny nose. I'm sure you had more than a runny nose to go on allergy shot, so look past the runny nose and examine what HAS improved in the last year. Love and hugs.

[judyb]

(((((((( dot ))))))))

Ann's right. A good cry always works...sort of like a summer shower that pushes out all of the "junk" that accumulates in the air.

Dee's got a point too!!! We ain't dead, so things are looking good.

Don't let these things take your quit away. Here's something I dug up from my archives.......
Today I had to get up and start again...my second year as an ex-smoker.
This certainly gives me pause to think and wonder how I survived the first one.

Early on in my days here, the statement was made (I don't recall by whom) that for each 10 years of
smoking, it takes at least one year to recover. That was a real eye-opener. But since I had nothing
special planned for the next four years, I dug in, packed my lunch, and decided to stay for the long haul.
A lot of water has gone over the dam, and a lot of people have come and gone in the last year.
Hopefully, many of them are still ex-smokers even tho they don't post. Some, I'm sure, lit up and lit out,
and never came back to try again. Those who could go on and get a life after a couple of months or so
are certainly to be envied. They are stronger than I.

For those of you who have been here all along, you have my undying gratitude. You were here to give
hugs and back-pats, and always seem to know when I needed a kick in the rear instead. You made
quitting possible.

As for the "newbies", take heart. Quitting is possible, necessary, and a very satisfying thing to do. Don't
become complacent when things are going smoothly, and don't be too quick to cut the ties to whatever
support group you have. I'll still need you input for three more years!

((((((((((Hugs to everyone))))))))))))
Dot

[jpkwitter]

HUGS TO YOU DOT!!

[dorothy]

Dot,
(((((((HUGS)))))))
What can I say that hasn't already been said?
I get soooooo bumbed out with my extra weight I think if I smoke I won't eat as much.
But I know that's just that dirty rotten lying sneacky nic talking.
I bike 8 to 10 miles a day and don't lose one stickin pound.
You are much healthier so try and give it time.
Take Care!!
Love Dorothy

[batman]

this is that time to hang in there. you cannot lose what you have gained in self respect, pride, enthusasim, and most of all confidence. you have told me many times that this is my quit. IT DID NOT GO ON DEAF EARS. i listened and so far have been successful. you helped restore my confidence and i will be with you as much as i can. not only are you a beautiful inside person but you are one of my FEMALE GYMNIST. if i have to explain that all over again, i will. hang in there girl and remember we are all with you.

batman