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Post by jbabies on Aug 31, 2004 20:12:45 GMT -5
I have a very loving supportive husband...no daubt I married a wonderful man...BUT...today marked my first week as a non-smoker, and (although it may sound silly) I feel as if it were kind of anti-climatic??? He's been around smoke his entire life, but has never smoked. I didn't grow up around it, but somehow picked up the habit. He's very happy I'm quitting, but I guess I expected more. Am I being rediculous? I'm sitting here rather disappointed that he's not doing summersaults of joy. I think understanding the addiction, and how difficult this week has been for me eludes him, therefore understanding how significant this day is for me eludes him as well? Just venting...sorry to whine, I know I've got a long way to go.
J
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Post by Graciedonovan on Sept 1, 2004 5:56:58 GMT -5
J, DO NOT APOLOGIZE, especially to us. WE DO understand. Someone who has never smoked just doesn't get it. You've done a wonderful thing for yourself, and your family. People who do not have the addiction do not understand what we go through when we quit. They think it's just a matter of putting them down and never picking them up again. That's just the beginning. It is an ongoing process that is difficult, but doable. We're very proud of you, as I'm sure your husband is. We'll be your cheer leading section. Come here and brag, we'll appreciate all that it has taken you to get through hell week and beyond.
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Post by jbabies on Sept 1, 2004 7:49:38 GMT -5
Gracie, thank you so much...I really am grateful to have you all to vent to. It can be very lonely. I've decided that each time I go a week, I'm going to give myself little rewards. "Little" meaning a walk alone, etc. I am a stay at home mother of two married to a special ed teacher, so the reward will have to be little!  In my heart, I'm just glad he's not a smoker too...he did say something incredibly sweet the day I quit...he said..."I'm so happy honey, now we can grow old together". He's a good guy. Thanks again, J |
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Post by Bubb on Sept 1, 2004 8:29:44 GMT -5
J, there are lots of peaks and valleys in this process. Grin and smile and ride the peaks; do whatever you have to do to pull yourself out of the valleys. Quitting smoking is much more than just giving up cigarettes. Learning to live without smoking is no small undertaking…. (quitting just may be the hardest thing you’ll ever do). And you are correct; those who have never smoked will not understand what you’re going through. But do not allow that to detract from the pride and sense of achievement you are feeling. Stand tall, kick your heels after each day. Do dwell on your success and never forget you are doing this for you.
Treat yourself….treat yourself often….The little treats for yourself will come out of the time you don’t spend smoking and the money you don’t spend on the evil weeds. Besides, you’re worth it and they are well earned.
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Post by judyb on Sept 1, 2004 11:28:31 GMT -5
Nope, you can't expect him to "get" what a big deal it is to go even one hour smokefree. As Bubb says, don't let it detract you from your goal, though. We're here to be your back slappers, cheerleaders!!!!!! Treat yourself anyway you can for achieving your milestones. I remember how happy I became when I started getting my sense of smell back. What a wonderful thing to rediscover!!!
Keep the fantastic attitude you have an keep on quitting!!!
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In my heart, I'm just glad he's not a smoker too...he did say something incredibly sweet the day I quit...he said..."I'm so happy honey, now we can grow old together". He's a good guy.
